How I Made a Huge Mess of My Life (or Couples Therapy with a Dead Man) by Billie Best — On Sale Now!

Billie Best’s memoir is a provocative, at times hilarious, account of her midlife mistakes and misadventures, and how they build her strength as she copes with her soul mate turned cheating husband who wants his death to be performance art, his doppelganger mistress who wants to steal her identity, and the financial collapse of the farm she loves. An inspiring tale of a woman’s rites of passage from her 40s to her 60s when everything in her life changes.

A force of pure energy and determination, there is nothing Billie won’t tackle: the perfect marriage, the mid-life career change from successful executive to idealistic farmer, and even, when her husband falls terminally ill, orchestrator of a flawless death-plan according to his wishes. But it takes her ten years of denial and suffering to confront and then triumphantly overcome the cracks in this ideal picture, the specter of infidelity beyond the grave, her obsessive need for tidiness and order, and her attachment to ephemeral things. — Hester Velmans, author of Isabel of the Whales and Slipper

Billie Best knows her way around rock bands, corporate America, small scale farming, and the most complicated business of all: matters of the heart. With her powerful writing, sentences that can lasso, seduce, inspire and bring tears to eyes, Ms. Best ventures where few dare with such naked honesty. — Maria Nation, screenwriter  

Best’s story about finding love both sensually and architecturally — along with disaster in both realms — is brave, boisterous, ballsy and just downright fun to read. The voice is accessible but intelligent, candid but heartfelt. Get copies for your favorite friends because if they borrow it, they’ll never give it back! — Courtney Maum, author of Touch and I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You

An illumination of a woman’s power in midlife, Best’s memoir is a gutsy saga of how a marriage breaks down after 30 years, what to do (and not to do) when your husband cheats on you, how to deal with a midlife crisis, how to plan your own funeral and die at home, how to move forward after becoming a widow, and the personal renaissance of downsizing and starting over — in short, this book is about how to age well.

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Billie Best is a Baby Boomer born in 1954 and speaks to her cohort, most particularly women over 50, with her own hard-earned wisdom on life’s uncertainty, the renaissance of menopause, fearless aging and coping with ageism. As a professional she has reinvented herself numerous times from the music business to marketing and technology to small scale farming and becoming an author. Her blog “Beyond 60 — Loving Life, Staying Relevant” at has established her as an entertainer, a feminist and a voice for change. Her memoir from Widowspeak Publishing (2020) is titled “How I Made a Huge Mess of My Life (or Couples Therapy with a Dead Man).” Currently she resides in Oregon.